Relationship Red Flag Check: Green, Yellow, or Red?
Controlled, put down, or blown hot and cold? Check the signals in your relationship with 20 statements.
- Estimated duration: 4 minutes
- Number of questions: 20
- Age range: 15–99 years
- Category: Relationships
About this instrument
Sometimes something in a relationship feels off, but it's hard to put into words. Is it normal for them to check your phone? To give you the silent treatment for days? This test helps you see the patterns in your relationship and which signals deserve attention. It looks at behaviour, not at who your partner is.
What you'll get:
Your relationship signal : green, yellow, orange, or red
Scores on four aspects: control and jealousy, put-downs, hot and cold, and safety
Lines to start a conversation and steps you can take
Safe, confidential places to get support
About this test: 20 statements, about 4 minutes. It works for dating, situationships, talking stages, or marriage, current or most recent. This is a self-reflection test , not a validated psychological test or diagnostic tool. Your result isn't shared with anyone.
Source: Mindovia Original. Questions, levels, and result texts were written by the Mindovia team. The concept draws on research on coercive control (Stark, 2007), Gottman's (1994) four communication patterns that harm relationships, research on love bombing (Strutzenberg et al., 2017), and the Power and Control Wheel concept from Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (Duluth). This test does not use items from any existing scale and is not affiliated with these researchers or organisations.
What it reflects on
- Control and Jealousy
- Put-Downs
- Hot and Cold
- Safety
How to take it
Think about your current or most recent relationship . How often do the following happen?
"They" means your partner or the person you're seeing.
Answer based on what actually happens. There are no right or wrong answers.
If a question feels uncomfortable, you can stop at any time.
This test is for self-reflection, not a diagnosis, and it doesn't judge your partner. If you feel unsafe, contact your local domestic violence hotline or emergency services. In Indonesia: SAPA 129 (call 129 or WhatsApp 08111-129-129), or 110 for emergencies.