Apology Language Test: What Kind of Sorry Wins You Over?

About this instrument

Ever felt an apology didn't land, even though the person said sorry? You might speak different apology languages. Some people need to hear heartfelt regret, some need the mistake owned, some need real proof. This test helps you find your apology language .

What you'll get:

Your main apology language out of six types

A type card to save and share with the people close to you

The kind of apology that wins you over, and the kind that makes things worse

A chart of all six types and your second type

About this test: 24 statements, about 4 minutes. This is a self-reflection test , not a validated psychological test.

Source: Mindovia Original. Questions, type names, and result texts were written by the Mindovia team. The six types follow the six elements of an effective apology identified by Roy Lewicki, Beth Polin, and Robert Lount (2016), most of which echo the apology languages idea of Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas (2006). This test does not use any book's quiz and is not affiliated with Gary Chapman or his publisher.

What it reflects on

• Needs a Real Sorry
• Needs to Know Why
• Needs You to Own It
• Needs It Made Right
• Needs Real Change
• Needs to Be Asked

How to take it

Think of a time someone close to you (a partner, friend, or family member) hurt your feelings and then apologised. Choose how well each statement describes you.

There are no right or wrong answers.

Answer based on how you usually feel, not what you think is ideal.